Fred Jordan

  • Born: October 1, 1960
  • Died: October 22, 2012
  • Location: Sherborn, Massachusetts

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Needham, MA 02492

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Tribute & Message From The Family


Frederick Hoyt Jordan of Sherborn, MA died suddenly at his home on October 22, 2012. He is survived by his wife Jennifer, sons Jake Frederick and Samuel Joseph and daughter Ali Elizabeth. He is also survived by his parents, Joseph and Diane Jordan of Duxbury, MA, his brother, John M Jordan of Charlotte, VT and his sister Deborah Casey of Newburyport, MA and several nephews, aunts, uncles and cousins.
Born in Stoughton, MA, Fred lived in Needham, MA, attending school at Hillside Elementary and then graduated from Weston High School, MA. He graduated from Amherst College in 1982 where he excelled as a varsity soccer goalie, sang with the Amherst College Glee Club as well as the Zumbyes a capella group. He was awarded an MBA from the Tuck School of Business Administration (Dartmouth College) in 1988. He married Jennifer Jacobsen in August of 1988. The family has lived in Sherborn for the past 19 years.
A talented musician, Fred played the clarinet, oboe, guitar and piano and sang with a local a capella group, "The Works", for many years. He had a tremendous love of all sports and was well known in Sherborn for the many teams he coached in soccer and baseball. He was deeply devoted to his three children and spent many hours with them in a number of assorted athletic activities. He was active in the Sherborn community, volunteering and serving on several boards.
Fred worked for the Forum Corporation up until 1998 when he took up the full time job of fathering his children. After returning to college to get his Masters Degree in Education, for the past two years Fred worked as a fourth grade teacher in the Field School in Weston, MA. He was well loved by his students and admired by his fellow teachers.
A memorial service will be held at Carter Memorial United Methodist Church, 800 Highland Ave Needham on Saturday, October 27th at 11 a.m. Relatives and friends are kindly invited to attend.
In lieu of flowers donations may be made to World Vision, P.O. Box 9716, Federal Way, WA 98063-9716 or Dover Sherborn Boosters, P.O. Box 1268, Sherborn, MA 01770.


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Condolence & Memory Journal

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I was cleaning out my desk today when I found Fred's phone number. I worked with Fred for 2 years from 1983-1985 at General Electric in Lynn, MA before he left to go to Tuck. We were close friends during that time and we both pondered our futures together and he decided to pursue an MBA and I left to go to law school. I was about to call him when I decided to google him and I learned of his passing. Even though I have not seen him since his wedding, I thought of him frequently and the news of his death floored me. There are very few people who I have met in this life who impacted me the way that Fred did. He had a gift of seeing the very best in people and bringing out their best. The memories that have never faded for me were the countless "signing" lessons he gave to me (I am NOT a singer) and the mock frustration he would express when I would lose the pitch or move from one octave to another. When I met my wife, he visited us and tried to teach me to sing a song for her and I remember us all laughing when I failed to execute.

Fred, I will continue to try to hit the right notes in my life and you continue to inspire me. I am so sorry that I lost track of you over all these years but know that you will always be in my heart.

I love that I got to share a few years with you.

Always your friend,

Alan Schwartz

Posted by Alan Schwartz - New York, NY - Friend   January 29, 2014

Fred's Dad was my homeroom and Chemistry Teacher. I always admired Fred as an all around well adapted person. After reading all the comments, it seems like Fred was very active in helping others. I just found out recently about his passing and I want to reach out to all affected.

Posted by Jamie Sarkisian - Weston, MA - high school classmate   November 17, 2013

Leave a condolence or a memory.I was so sad to learn about the passing of Fred.My deepest heartfelt condolences to Jen & kids.

Posted by Julie house - Franklin, MA   September 06, 2013

Just recently I learned of Fred's passing,I remember him from the play Dracula Baby and seeing him in passing in the hallway and sharing the locker next to me in junior high school. I remember an extremely talented and gifted young man. And I am deeply saddened by his loss and send my heartfelt condolences to his family.

Posted by Steve Castelline - Collinsville, AL - High School classmate   August 22, 2013

Just recently I learned of Fred's passing,I remember him from the play Dracula Baby and seeing him in passing in the hallway and sharing the locker next to me in junior high school. I remember an extremely talented and gifted young man. And I am deeply saddened by his loss and send my heartfelt condolences to his family.

Posted by Steve Castelline - Collinsville, AL - High School classmate   August 22, 2013

Fred was a senior at Amherst College when I was a mere freshman, but I remember him vividly when I joined the Amherst Glee Club. He had a deep resonate voice, a good sense of humor and was a born leader. He was welcoming to everyone and just struck me as someone that you should emulate and aspire to be like. He had an enthusiasm and zest for life. Reading all of these touching notes, I can see that he had a profound impact on many people's lives. He was truly one of those people who made the world a better place. My condolences to his family and friends.

Posted by Ron Minionis - Annandale, VA - Amherst College Schoolmate '85   June 08, 2013

I haven't seen Fred Jordan in at least 16 years. He was one of my bosses at the Forum Corporation. I just recently learned of his death - I was so shocked and so very sad as I know are so many of his friends and of course his family. I remember him to be so boistrous, full of life, funny, handsome, a real family man. I also remember he and I butt heads a little bit at the beginning until we finally had a heart to heart - from that moment on our relationship changed and he was such a leader and more importantly a friend. As a "thank you" one year he gave me two tickets to anywhere I wanted to go in the US. He was kind and taught me alot of life lessons in the business world that I still carry with me to this day. I am so sorry for his family and wish you strength and peace as you deal with your grief. I, like so many will miss him dearly.

Posted by Ali Cornfeldt - Fairfield, CT - Work friend   May 21, 2013

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I am not certain why today I decided to go back and read the memories that so many wrote about fred. Ironically it is 6 months to the day of Fred's death, I had no idea. When you are caught up with the moment many may not take the time to read everything. For the past 45 minutes I have and it has been an enjoyable and amazing 45 minutes. The number of peole Fred influenced is remarkable. I only wish, if i were to pass suddenly, there would be as many kind words directed towards me as Fred has had directed towards who he was.

Sadly, becuase of where I was in relation to Needham, I was unable to attend Fred's service. In my absence I asked my father if he would represent me. It was an awkard position to put anyone in but being who my father is, he honored my wishes. He called me on his way home to Weston and said only one thing"'Thank you"

Fred, I "thank you"

Posted by Nat Reeder - Nantucket Telluride Weston - Friend   March 23, 2013

Dearest John,
I learned today of your brother's death. I am so very very sorry. Lots of love to you and all your family, love Jon and Kris (Sauser) Thomas

Posted by Kris Thomas - VT - Friend of Johns.    March 07, 2013

Hey, Fred: Thank You for the Music

"Thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing
Thanks for all the joy they're bringing
Who can live without it, I ask in all honesty
What would life be?
Without a song or a dance what are we?
So I say thank you for the music
For giving it to me" (ABBA)

We miss you now, and always will.
Your California Jacobsen Family

Posted by Heather Jacobsen - Berkeley, CA - Sister-in-Law   November 24, 2012

Headline: Jesus gets #1 draft pick for the game of life……..

Fred Jordan, a versatile hard throwing lefty from Sherborn, MA recently joined the team. Picked up from AAA club, Jordanistan, Fred brings his all-around game to the lineup. Jesus was quoted as saying, “this kid can throw, he can hit, he’s a singer and dancer, plays many instruments and knows how to have fun”. His previous experience with top ranked club Jordanistan under skipper JAS (Jake-Ali-Sam) prepared him well for his new role. JAS commented that his star had been slumping recently but had lots of game left in that powerful left arm. Fred is a rock star commented JAS and he will be sorely missed in our lineup. Fred reported that Jesus sold him on the idea when he had him meet Jonah and the two talked fishing. Jesus and Jonah liked to fish so Fred was a natural acquisition. When I join this squad commented Fred I can pitch against the best – Orion, Cassiopeia and those darn dipper brothers. Coach JAS summed up the loss by saying, “Fred will be missed by all but Jesus picked up one heck of an amazing angel.”

Posted by bill scatchard - Sherborn, MA - Friend   November 12, 2012

Fred's humor, kindness and intelligence will remain in my memory always. His spirit is indelible.

Posted by Danny Miller - NY, NY - Weston High School Class of 76   November 09, 2012

May you find peace in looking down on all the ones who loved you and know you will forever been in our hearts.
Love Syd

Posted by Syd    November 09, 2012

Fred’s joy for life was contagious. He was gifted with a powerful intellect, multiple talents and an unusual self-confidence, such that achievement came easily to him. For all of his ability and success, there was an underlying humility. It seemed he was grateful for the bounty life brought his way. He lifted others in their journey, as he enthusiastically encouraged friends to achieve their goals and inspired others to believe in themselves.

Fred and I met in 1984 when we both joined the same choral group in Lexington, MA. Later, we even sang a few duets at my church in Lexington. Our bond became more than music, though.

We both loved the ocean so we would find ourselves on the water’s edge a lot. We walked side-by-side, listening and talking about whatever was on our minds or in our hearts. On one such walk he distinguished between the meaning of ‘contentment’ and ‘happiness,’ that isn’t in Webster’s dictionary. I still use Fred’s definition. Sometimes we would skip stones or sea shells as we thought our way through a particular subject. At other times before I knew it he would spontaneously invent a game, using the materials at hand, so that we were running, tumbling, laughing and playing like kids. We were just being and sharing.

I am stunned and saddened beyond measure to know that life brought my friend , who was so vibrantly alive, to despondency and hopelessness. May he rest in eternal peace.

Until we meet again…. I fly on the wings of his love, joy and confidence.

Posted by Tanya - Eastern, NC - fellow songster and close friend   November 08, 2012

I had the privilege of attending Weston High with Fred, and regret to have lost touch with him since. As I read about his wonderful, rich and fulfilling life through others' memories, it is easy to imagine the teenager I knew growing into the wonderful man described here. Insofar as I was concerned in high school, Fred was smarter, a better singer, a ralented musician, a better athlete and a nicer person in every way compared to me....a guy who under normal circumstances should have been easy to hate! But I admired Fred and counted myself lucky to be considered his friend. My regret at not being part of his life after high school can't compare to the loss of those lucky enough to see him grow into the man so cherished in memories. But please let me assure you - they aren't making guys like Fred Jordan anymore, and my memories of him are sharp, bright and reflect the sheer joy of living that he projected and brought to all he came in contact with. My family's most profound condolences to Fred's family and many loved ones.

Posted by Chris Cleary - Lagrangeville, NY - Weston High friend    November 07, 2012

A delightful picture adorns my front hallway, of my daughter Blake, hitting a ball tossed by Fred in the backyard of the Jordan's home on Nantucket. It was nearly a decade ago that picture was taken!
But it embodied everything the Jordan family offered to their community and friends; love, friendship, generosity, strength of spirit, enthusiasm for live and gratitude.
I love that photo and it's been there for years, but as I now continue to pass it daily, I keep Fred's extraordinary memory in my heart and trust that despite our loss, Fred's love of life will live on in all of us.
My deepest heartfelt condolences to Jen and the children ~
Much love, Britta

Posted by britta - needham, MA - friend   November 02, 2012

I was so sad when I just found out... Jordan family please know you are in my thoughts and prayers....

Posted by Wendy Bruno- from CDC - Dover, MA - Preschool teacher @ CDC   November 02, 2012

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Our memories of Fred extend back many decades to his youth and are as BIG as he was…..vivid…magnetic…dynamic …full of life. He knew how to light up a room with his warmth and humor – pulling in everyone around him. As his church youth group leaders we had the joy of spending time with him in his formative years. We have vivid memories of Fred on the mission field in Haiti and Red Bird Mission in Kentucky. Always in the thick of the action, he captured children and adults alike. As testified to by so many at his Memorial Service – we experienced Fred as 'charging into life' and living it to the fullest - not wasting any of his gifts (which were sooooo many), and always giving of himself out of the bigness of his loving heart. The loss of Fred in this world is vast, and the pain is deep. My heart and prayers go out to his entire family…. dear parents Diane and Joe, devoted brother John and sister Debbie and their families and to Jake, Sam, Alli and Jen. May there always be love that carries you through and may God’s healing grace and abundant mercy minister to your wounded heart.

With Love,
Beth Harrington, former youth group leader, friend, and Weston Colleague
Russ Harrington, former youth group leader and friend

Posted by Beth and Russ Harrington - Needham, MA - Friend, Youth Group Leaders    October 31, 2012

So saddened by the news of Fred's passing. We can never Judge one person.. because no one really knows the pain and sorrow one can feel for what ever reason.
My brother and I were the Jordan's "personal painters" for about 15 years. I remember having to put the 40 foot ladder in the back of the pick up truck to reach the top of the garage side of the house. We had painted the outside 2 times over the years and most of the inside. I even remember Fred taking my brother golfing once or twice. I pray for his 3 angels that he loved and cared for every minute of his days...God Bless

Posted by Ian Casucci - Millis/Uxbridge, MA - Friend    October 31, 2012

I have been struggling with finding the words to express the shock and the pain that all of us who have known Fred and his family must be feeling now. It is clear that Fred had a huge impact on so many people. I heard of his passing while visiting friends in North Carolina and am sorry that I missed his service on Saturday. My heart goes out to his parents, brother and sister, and especially to Jen, Jake, Sam and Ali....his two loyal dogs. Nan and JoAnna (whom Fred used to toss in the air which made her laugh with joy!)

Posted by Nan Hermanns - Wayland, MA - friend and the family "gardener"   October 30, 2012

I met Fred about 14 years ago when he started to come to spin classes at BSC. I was a teeny bit annoyed by the fact that he tended to sit in front of me; because of his height I couldn’t see the instructor. However, that was not a problem for long because he soon rode faster and stronger than the instructors, and I just tried to follow him!
It also wasn’t long before Fred moved seamlessly from student to spin teacher. He was phenomenal at it. His love of music and great fitness level got everyone going! His classes involved much more, though. Great stories about his family: amazing trips—skiing, fishing, camping, Nantucket. Lots of kids stories—all their milestones, sporting and other achievements. Other stories of the wild days of youth and early adulthood. Fred’s were so good!
And then a pretty regular stream of life lessons. Things he’d learned along the way. And his great tunes- never was there a collection so eclectic. For a treat he would break out his college dance to DEVO’s “Whip it” every now and then, sing-a-longs, music trivia questions that could win you a great Fred CD. Fred would usually end each class with a quiet song of reflection that would always inspire. Once and a while that would be “The Circle Game”, and he would remind us to remember how precious childhood is. Fred knew how to enjoy and celebrate life, and all of its nuances. I will always try to remember him this way.
Much love to ALL of Fred’s family and friends—thinking of all of you, all the time.

Posted by Karen Buckley - wellesley - friend   October 30, 2012

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Fred's enthusiasm got me through a year full of 6am Tuesday classes. He would play awesome tunes and work us hard. He would reframe our thoughts from "why am I here" to "get what you came for". Fred always ended the class in a sort of spiritual way - enjoy the day, hug your spouse and kids - challenging us to be thankful for the day.
I would laugh when he would sing over the swears in songs as I would do myself when my kids are listening and how frustrated he would get with us when we didn't belt out "Sweet Caroline" with enthusiasm as he did.
Fred seemed to have it all but was somehow humble, thankful and curious. He would share stories with my husband about soccer championships and favorite heroes. We are so sorry for your unimaginable loss. May his memory be eternal and inspire us all to be better.

Posted by Alice Murphy - Wellesley , MA - Spynergy Spinner   October 30, 2012

When the "Gang of Eight" rented a cottage this past summer, Fred made sure the guys would have a memorable Nantucket vacation. Fred could not stop caring and giving. I always thought I would run into Fred around town so I could personally thank him.

Posted by Glenn Kantorski - Sherborn, MA - A Fellow Sherborn Father   October 29, 2012

The hurricane that hitting New England today pales in its impact to the massive power of FJ's spirit and the storm in the hearts of all members of Team F.R.E.D. (Fondly Remembering Every Day) we shared with him!

Posted by Patrick Rafter - Wellesley, MA - Friend, Admirer, Brother in Song   October 29, 2012

Thinking of the whole Jordan family and sending our love. With deepest sympathy, The Lazarus family.

Posted by Sarah Lazarus    October 29, 2012

With much love, this one is for you, dear Fred...

Posted by Karen Schwartz - Los Angeles, CA - High School Friend   October 29, 2012

I first met Fred in 1983 when he worked in Marblehead as a waiter, and I went to visit him with my late ex-husband, Eric Keroack. Fred showed us all around town, and I fell in love with Marblehead. So much so that I have lived here for the past 20 years. I will always remember Fred's enthusiasm and generosity of spirit, and my heartfelt sympathy goes out to his family.

Posted by Henriette Perkins (formerly Keroack) - Marblehead, MA - friend   October 29, 2012

The Jordans were such a large part of my life for so long. They were my next door neighbors from 1992 onward, and I quickly became their regular babysitter. I watched Jake and Sam occasionally when they were young, but when Ali was born, I became a part of their family. Daily visits, summers together, vacations to Vermont and Nantucket - I was with them often watching the kids grow into the wonderful people they are today. My brother also spent many summers with the kids in Nantucket, and he really looked forward to those times.

When I found out about Fred last week, my initial shock soon turned to inexplicable grief. I will always remember Fred as full of life - between spinning and singing and fishing and coaching, he just had so much going on and was so happy. I feel incredibly sad that he was in such a place that he would give up on the life he always seemed to love so much. Jake, Sam, and Ali - I can't even begin to tell you how much your father loved you. I spent a decade watching him laugh and marvel at the wonder of his children. He truly loved you all, and he loved his life with you.

Fred always had a way of making others feel special. Where many people would not take the extra effort, he always made a point to reach out and share his thoughts. As recently as this summer, while exchanging emails, he told me that he was so happy to have me in his kids' lives and what a wonderful role model I was for them. He also once wrote a letter to my parents to tell them the same. My parents still have that letter because it meant so much to them.

To say that Fred meant a great deal to so many people is a total understatement. But to the people he meant the most to - his children - I wish you all the courage in the world as you come to peace with your monumental loss. I am so sorry to all three of you, Jennifer, and his family, for what you are going through. My heavy heart is with you.

Posted by Brianne Ogilvie - Woodbridge, VA - Former nanny   October 29, 2012

From babyhood on to toddler, teenager, college grad, husband, father, Fred was a special special gift to his father and me. At 2 1/2 years of age he walked out our front door to take on the world. Nothing daunted him. Everything was a challenge to be met and conquered. His Dad and I often said that Fred got all the good genes each of us had to give. Personsable, funny, "wicked" smart, musical, athletic - all good things wrapped up in a very handsome man. He learned kindness very early in life and if the messages left on this site are to be believed he continued to pass that kindcess on to all the folks he subsequently met. Fred's choice to leave all of us behind is confusing, shocking and totally out of characted given the person he was. His brother said, Fred and suicide in the same sentence is like saying Fred and serial killer in the same sentence. It just doesn't make any sense. We knew how sad he has been since the beginning of this year, and he spiraled down at a greater speed after he moved out of his home of 20 years to his own place in late August. His friends tried to reach him, his family tried, we tried - obviously to no avail. Our prayer is that all of us will replace the hard memories of this past week with the joyful, energetic, loving memries that were the REAL Fred. Thank you all for taking the time to write down these "stories" of his life. In the midst of my gut wrenching grief - they help. God Bless. Diane Jordan, Fred's Mom

Posted by Diane Elizabeth Jordan - Duxbury, MA - Mother   October 28, 2012

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We held a moment of silence for Fred before our Medfield Old Boys match vs Canton this morning. Both over-50 teams hand in hand at the center circle before the start of the match. Fred was a talented keeper and a great team mate who could always be counted on for wit and wisdom at half time and over beers after the game. Fred will be missed by all of us, and our deepest sympathies to his family.

Posted by Eric Dragsbaek - Sherborn, MA - Soccer team mate   October 28, 2012

What tragic and devastating news. My condolences to you all.

With sadness,

Terry

Posted by Terry Pitts - Breckenridge, CO - Tuck Classmate   October 28, 2012

More memories from the 1970's Weston crowd: Fred's leather jacket and shades when Town Criers sang "Blue Moon," Fred's oboe part in the Vivaldi Gloria at Christmas (and I think he had a broken leg then); Fred in Music Man. Dracula Baby and Brigadoon (early 80's). My sisters Amy and Jessie went to WHS with Fred while I went to elementary school with his brother John. To the whole extended family: God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Many are praying for you.

Posted by Ava E. Grover - Minneapolis, MN - classmate of Fred's brother   October 28, 2012

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Fred and I were buddies at Hillside - I was new to the school in 3rd grade and we became buddies right away. We were close until he went to Weston HS and then we gradually lost touch. He was a great friend - fun, kind, so smart. I've thought of him and his family often over the years. I'm so sorry - my heart goes out to you all.

Posted by John Francis - South Salem, NY - friend   October 28, 2012

Jennifer and kids:
Liam and I send our most sincere condolences to you Jennifer and all the family. I am truly shocked. I will keep you in my prayers and contact you privately. My heart breaks for you and yours.
Love always,
Debra McLaughlin

Posted by debra mclaughlin - virginia beach, VA - cousin   October 28, 2012

Hi Jen. I am so very sad to hear your news. I have long lost touch with you guys - but you were both such a special part of my Tuck memories. My thoughts are with you.... Lots of love - Jayne

Posted by Jayne Hrdlicka - Sydney - Tuck Classmate   October 28, 2012

Jake, Sam, and Ali,
Singing with your dad in The Works for the last two years has been a gift. Not only did he inspire me to be a better musician, but also a more engaged person and parent. His devotion, joy, pride, and love for the three of you was always evident. I will miss him dearly.
Jill Blaszkowsky

Posted by Jill Blaszkowsky - Needham, MA - Friend   October 28, 2012

My first real exposure to Fred came only this past summer. We received a wonderful invitation to enjoy a week in Nova Scotia with several other families. In retrospect, it was the ultimate setting to take a crash course on “Fred”… Being friends on the sideline is one thing but spending morning noon & night with a large group can be scary ;) As both Fred and Ali were a bit new to the group, I was struck by how effortlessly Fred’s personality not only meshed with the group but infused his own energy and style. Suddenly, we were competing in everything from Camper of the day to paddle tennis, soccer and skipping rocks.. (the jury is still out on Fred’s record setting “31” skips.. ) Fred stayed up late with the drinking crew but was first out of bed. He spearheaded the kids wiffle ball game, and finally coaxed my daughter into making the dreaded wharf jump. And yes, we too got to see his patented Devo Whip-It dance.. He closed out the week by sharing a poem he wrote which captured the essence of our time beautifully.. To say Fred was unique is an understatement. With only a vacation and a handful of dinners together over the past few months, I cant help but feel robbed of the opportunity to experience more.. The loss which Ali and the boys must be experiencing is unfathomable. Our hearts go out to each of you.

Posted by Pete Doyle - Sherborn, MA - Recent Friend   October 28, 2012

Dear Jordan Family,
I knew your husband and dad during his Lesley internship at Hillside Elem. School in Needham. I taught first grade and we never worked together directly. Your dad was extremely friendly and collegial. We all could tell how much he loved kids, and how proud he was to be back in his own elementary school. When the kids lost most of the playground balls at recess, (Most got kicked accidentally over the fence into the swamp, and others just tore open from constant use.) Fred bought a complete new set of new balls for recess, and I remember how psyched the kids were when they appeared on the playground. Please accept my deepest sympathy.
Margie Margolis
Needham

Posted by margie margolis - needham, MA - colleague   October 28, 2012

Jake, Sam and Ali -

I first knew your Dad at Amherst, and even back then he always filled the room with his trademark warmth, wit and kindness. Everyone always loved him and looked forward to being around him. Needless to say, he stole the show at many a Zumbye gig. My husband Tom (a fellow Zumbye) and I reconnected with him a few years ago to help fill his shoes on a Soundbytes trip...we did our best but those shoes required low notes that only Fred could truly deliver. The silver lining was that it brought Fred back into our lives. When Fred he encouraged me to join The Works after Bev "retired", it was impossible to say no to him.

I am so grateful that over last couple of years I've been able to reconnect and sing with him regularly. He had an inimitable way of being so present and playful but always expecting the most of us all as musicians and performers. It gave me just a glimpse of what an incredible Dad he must be.

As with everyone in the church today, and the hundreds of others whose lives he brightened but who couldn't be there, my heart is still breaking. You three are a vibrant legacy of his huge heart, and are all even more beautiful and impressive than Fred ever let on...and as you know he wasn't shy about singing your praises! I know you have so much love and support from so many people, but if there's anything Tom or I can ever do for any of you guys, please let us know.

I've keep thinking about that line from Hamlet - "Goodnight sweet prince; And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest." I'm pretty jealous that those angels have Fred to sing with now. And I'm pretty sure he will keep them on their toes with his trademark formula for getting a song into shape, proclaimed in his beautiful, bellowing bass, "Notes...rhythm...mastery!"

Much love to you all, and all the Jordans and everyone who loved FJ.

Mimi Deck Rutledge

Posted by Mimi Deck Rutledge - Concord, MA - college classmate, singing pal   October 27, 2012

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I graduated with Fred and though I didn't follow his life I have read about it through the lovely tributes. Prayers for Fred and all his loving family.

Posted by Loren (Alpert) Evans - Needham, , MA - School Friend   October 27, 2012

Dear Jenn, Jake, Sam and Ali,

We would like to extend our sincere condolescences to you and your family. I share the sentiments of so many of your friends and acquaintences. Thinking of you all now, knowing that you are surrounded by those who love, comfort and guide you through a most difficult time. If there is anything we can do.....

Nancy, Bruce and Elizabeth Evans

Posted by Nancy and bruce Evans - Sherborn, MA - acquaintance   October 27, 2012

So sad to hear about Fred...one of my clasmates whom i truly respected...:)

Posted by Michael Wechsler - Aspen, CO - High school classmate   October 27, 2012

Until we meet again,my spinning friend. Your joyful spirit will be greatly missed here on Nantucket, tho now you are "riding" on the wings of the angels.......prayers go out to all the Jordan family....

Posted by Andrea Smith - nantucket, MA - friend   October 27, 2012

Fred was always there and willing to help when we needed soccer coaches. A great mentor and positive role model for all....he will be missed. Anne Cullen, Dover, MA

Posted by Anne Cullen - Dover, MA - friend   October 27, 2012

My condolences to all the family on their loss.

Memories of Fred in high school came rushing back over the past few days; forgive me indulging in a few:

To Sue's soundtrack, I need to add Toots and the Maytals 'Pressure Drop' song
(sung in scratchy harmony at the end of party or a break in studies with Fred 'stylin' in the center of a crowd)

To his athletic abilities and leadership I'd add a gentleness and encouragement for those not so gifted . (I should know being part of remedial gym when I couldn't do the the rope climb -- no wonder he was such a good teacher).

To his musical abilities I would add his quick wit --he could rewrite and sing wacky lyrics to our (Third Edition) glee club songs before the choir director quite knew what had happened..Those glints of irreverence and fun made me more than willing to be Renfield to his Dracula..

Fred was a pip! (from the old slang for "a person much admired") but as we see from these memories, it was about who he was and how he lived not simply what he did.. A guy who connected to and encouraged others every day--a rare quality indeed.

Posted by Paul Miller - high school classmates   October 27, 2012

I am so sad that Paul and I are too far away to be there this morning with all of you. Fred was the dashing leading man at the center of our high school music-and-theater gang. Collectively, we had the support of loving parents and a great school. We worked hard and played hard, in a seemingly non-stop cycle of concerts and plays, overnight cast parties ending with everyone asleep on the floor, and breakfast at HoJos. Fred's talent, as so many have noted, was balanced by his extraordinary kindness. The soundtrack to those years, beyond our own harmonizing, consisted of LPs by Elton John, Cat Stevens, Chicago, Earth Wind & Fire. Fred will always be a shining star...

Posted by Sue Katz Miller - Taoma Park, MD - High school friend   October 27, 2012

Hi All,

I first met Fred when he came proposing to sing for the benefit of the Sherborn Community Center. I was on the Board of Directors and met with him a few times. The group was wonderful.

I am now his successor on the Sherborn Cemetery Commission.

I miss him for many things even though I would count myself as a 'distant' friend.

Hope all is well with the family and alsways know that Liz and I will extend a hand if you need one.

Gene and Liz
508-653-7178

Posted by Gene Ham - Sherborn, MA - firend   October 27, 2012

As I'm rushing around to get ready to attend the Memorial Service in Fred's honor this morning, I am flooded with many wonderful memories of our wonderful high school days. Fred was a huge part of them all. As others have noted, he was a handsome leading man, he was a talented musician (both instrumentally and vocally), he was a scholar, he was a true friend... the list goes on. He was the type of person who made you feel that you were the sole reason he was there. He truly cared about what you had to say and about hearing what was important to you (me.) I had the good fortune to cross paths with Fred a couple of years ago by chance in a parking lot of a local grocery store. We walked past each other and then both did a double take. I said his name and he immediately gave me a great big bear hug. Although he was in a rush to purchase water bottles for an imminent soccer game, he chatted for several minutes with his signature warm and caring attitude. If we could all take a page from his book going forward and let the people in our lives know how much we care, we will all be helping to continue Fred's legacy. He may be gone but he will live on and never be forgotten. Thank you, Fred, for being a true friend and inspiration to so many.

My thoughts and prayers are with his parents and family. May the knowledge of what Fred meant to so many help give you strength in the coming days, weeks, months... God Bless...

Posted by Holly Welch Sullivan - MA   October 27, 2012

Dear Jen, Jake, Sam, and Ali,

Words cannot express the sadness of learning of Fred's passing. We have so many fond memories of spending time with you all in Nantucket. You have so many friends and family that love you all deeply to help you through this difficult time. Please know you all are in our thoughts and prayers.

Diane and Mark Ramee

Posted by Diane and Mark Ramee - Vienna, VA - friends   October 27, 2012

Candle

Extending deepest sympathies to the Jordan family and all who knew and loved Fred. Our families became friendly through the Carter Church in Needham, and I fondly remember Fred's larger-than-life spirit, kindness toward children in the church family, love for the game of soccer, and his wonderful singing voice. He was the kind of guy everyone admired and loved. Like other members of the Jordan family, I always felt that Fred was an amazing and inspirational guy. What a shocking and tragic loss. Our hearts go out to the Jordan family...you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Kristin Hoffman - Hollis, NH - Friend   October 27, 2012

Swing low, sweet chariot
Coming for to carry me home
Swing low, sweet chariot
Coming for to carry me home

I looked over Jordan and what did I see
Coming for to carry me home
A band of angels coming after me
Coming for to carry me home
...

To this day, I hear Fred's voice singing on our Outward Bound boat in 1986, just before starting Tuck. It was moving then and it makes me cry today. Fred had a fantastic voice and huge heart. Although this particular moment sticks in my mind, Fred's voice and heart blessed those around him at all times.

Jen,
Words aren't enough to express my emotions. That voice and that heart will never leave my mind. You have my deepest sympathy.
Olivier

Posted by Olivier Fainsilber - Paris, France - Tuck classmate   October 27, 2012

My sincere condolences to the entire family. I first met Fred when he was the President of Dover-Sherborn Babe Ruth baseball and I was the new umpire-in- chief. As good a player as he may have been...Fred knew nothing about the rules of baseball. Over the next few years we developed a mutual respect for each other...he was the king of nicknames. Every one of the players he coached felt special. Fred had the gift of gab. I umpired many of Sam's games over the past six or seven years and Fred was always there. Whether I umped a good game or a bad one....Fred always had a kind word for me. RIP Fred you were a good one.

Posted by Jay Gledhill - Hopkinton, MA - Acquaintance, Baseball Nut   October 27, 2012

I was a childhood friend of Fred's at Hillside school. One of my earliest memories was of Fred singing in kindergarten - where the music teacher gently pulled the hair on the top of his head encouraging him to hit a higher note. And maybe that's where it started because it seems like throughout his life Fred always seemed to hit a higher note.

I was happy to reconnect with him a few years back on FaceBook. It seems clear that Fred always continued to be a better version of himself. We all know that Fred wasn't a regular guy. He was incredible, smart, sweet, generous, well rounded. I am saddened terribly but amazed by what he accomplished in his life - the friends he made, the love for his family, the passion he he shared for them, the community and the things he enjoyed. The outpouring of love here and in the social media shows the impact he had on the world.

What moves me the most is that Fred - a man with the world at his feet - was that same boy I knew who admired his dad so greatly that he followed in his foot steps. And even more importantly, Fred took his dad's example and the time to be that great dad to own kids. He was and will remain an inspiration and the type of person that we should all aspire to be. My heart goes out to all of you.

Posted by Alyson Waldman Kotkowski - MA - Friend   October 27, 2012

Candle

There are no words... the reverberations are far and wide.

Posted by marit bezahler - oak bluffs, MA   October 27, 2012

We became friends and kids at Tanglewood-- Fred made me feel warmed and welcome the girl form Oklahoma. He gently kidded me about my accent--dubbing me "Tinabelle" and somehow made my difference an asset.

We kept in touch over the following years and my memories of him as a young adult are some of my most cherished. I loved meeting you Jenn and every once in while getting word on this growing vibrant family.

I know that Fred was genuine and true --his heart was always to others, and somehow I believe he felt he was serving others is his final choice.

I am proud to have called him a dear friend and cherish my memories of him deeply, and always have.

I will miss knowing he is out there making the world a better and more beautiful place. He taught me so much. My sweet old friend.

"Here's Looking at you kid"
FJ and HB

Posted by Martina Tramontozzi - Melrose, MA - Tanglewood Friend   October 27, 2012

Fred and I shared so many common bonds in school – Orchestra, Baseball, Chorus, Theater, and most importantly, the Town Criers. As one of its founding members, Fred helped establish the culture that the group maintains to this day, 36 years later. In fact, my most recent interactions with Fred revolved around efforts to put together a 35th reunion for the Criers. Though Fred ultimately was not able to attend, Fred participated vicariously through the emails he and I shared afterward, detailing the event, attendees, and spur-of-the-moment performances. Though he was disappointed he missed seeing everyone, Fred’s emails clearly conveyed the great pride he took in the longevity of TC and the recognition the group has received over time – for example, at the US a cappella championships. Though, being Fred, I think he was also disappointed because he wanted to be at the reunion to show the newer members what the “old guys” could still do.

Fred was a great person with a wonderful sense of humor and innumerable talents. Being together as much as we were, given our common interests, he was a constant in my time at Weston High. I can say with gratitude, I knew him well and he was a good friend. My heart goes out to his family.

Posted by David Charpie - Weston, MA - Friend, Weston High School   October 27, 2012

On a fishing trip years ago, I remember Fred excited about buying a tee shirt to bring home that he was seeing for the first time. It had the now familiar slogan "Life is Good!" and I remember him wearing the shirt a lot.

With Fred's passing, "Why?" offers no solace and this does not feel good. Ironically, his exultant reminder is what I need today as I begin to accept what I do not understand.

Jen, Jake, Sam and Ali, may you allow yourself to borrow strength from those around you as you struggle to find your own peace again.

With much love,

Tom Hallagan

Posted by Tom Hallagan - Roxbury , CT - Family friend   October 27, 2012

Fred - It is an honor and priviledge to have been your friend. Inspiring was your level of energy, zest for life, your passionate attempt to always point out the good (in people and situations), and of course your love of fishing and deep admiration for your family. You are nothing short of an outstanding individual. My heart aches for you and your pain, but I am happy to think you are in a more peaceful place. I will miss you forever. Chris

Posted by Christopher Robbins - Sherborn, MA - Friend   October 26, 2012

There are stars whose radiance is visible on earth
though they have long been extinct.

There are people whose brilliance continues to light the world
though they are no longer among the living.

These lights are particularly bright when the night is dark.

They light the way for humankind.

- Hannah Senesh

I worked with Fred for a decade at The Forum Corporation. He was caring, hard working, and always had a smile on his face. Everywhere Fred has been, he has touched lives. My thoughts go out to his family and friends. When the moments are the toughest, just remember to look around at all the light that Fred created in our world.

Posted by Amy Tananbaum    October 26, 2012

Candle

So sorry for your loss. Mental illness clouds the mind and judgement people just want their mind to be quiet. I'm very sorry this has touched your life in such a tragic way. Remember the good times you shared and just how much you are loved. My prayers are with your family.

Posted by Zandra Williams    October 26, 2012

As a Charter Boat Captain Working for Captain Tom’s Charters Fred was a regular client. Tom would call the night before to let you know your schedule for the following day. “I have some good news and some bad news” Tom would say. “The bad news is you are up at 3 am as you have a triple tomorrow, the good news is your last charter is with Fred” A triple meant you had three charters in one day. You would be up at 3 am to be on the water at 4 and the third or last trip of the day started at 5 and usually ended after dark. Knowing Fred was your last trip was such an anticipation of joy because you knew, regardless of how good the fishing was going to be, it was going to be the best trip of the day. He brought so much entertainment, joy, enthusiasm, passion, excitement and concern. If he knew it was your third of the day he would say “you must be exhausted we will make this short don’t worry” The fish were secondary, actually many times irrelevant to how much fun you had….it was about spending time with him and whomever he brought along… a close friend, son, daughter and my most favorite his Dad… I will never forget that trip for the rest of my life and thank you for all of the other memories my friend; I will miss you…..

Posted by Nat Reeder - Weston, Nantucket, Telluride Co - Friend   October 26, 2012

Fred's Soccer Teammate Memories - Continued from below:

“When I think of my memories with the our soccer group, and then recognize that one is now gone, the combination of appreciation of being part of such a brotherhood, and sadness at the loss, leaves me searching for both questions and answers.
Aside from the athleticism and strength of will that kept the goals out and made him our backbone on the field, and the voice that commanded attention (and, amongst other things, serenaded me at my 40th birthday), I will keep a vivid memory of Fred, at 20, in Paris. In the memory, Fred is deliriously happy, speaking great French, stealing hearts, and telling a wonderful story about looking for the bar at which we had agreed to meet near Notre Dame (it was called 'Au Petit Bar'). (Fred's story, with the last line almost shouted, was: "I asked a couple of people if they knew where 'Au Petit Bar' (The Little Bar) was, and, finally, one disgusted Parisian replied before stomping away: "Il y a beaucoup de petit bar en Paris!" (There are many little bars in Paris!)
May he rest in peace, and may we all band even more closely together following this tragedy.”

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 6A - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

“When I think of my memories with the our soccer group, and then recognize that one is now gone, the combination of appreciation of being part of such a brotherhood, and sadness at the loss, leaves me searching for both questions and answers.
Aside from the athleticism and strength of will that kept the goals out and made him our backbone on the field, and the voice that commanded attention (and, along with other things, serenaded me at my 40th birthday), I will keep a vivid memory of Fred, at 20, in Paris. In the memory, Fred is deliriously happy, speaking great French, stealing hearts, and telling a wonderful story about looking for the bar at which we had agreed to meet near Notre Dame (it was called 'Au Petit Bar'). (Fred's story, with the last line almost shouted, was: "I asked a couple of people if they knew where 'Au Petit Bar' (The Little Bar) was, and, finally, one disgusted Parisian replied before stomping away: "Il y a beaucoup de petit bar en Paris" (There are many little bars in Paris)
May he rest in peace, and may we all band even more closely together following this tragedy.”

“I am so saddened by this tragic news. I had the great good fortune to play against Fred in an Over the Hill soccer match last spring. I did not know that Fred was the 'keeper for the Medfield team, but as soon as the first cross came into the box, this 'keeper leapt for the ball and called out "Keeper", and I knew instantly that it was Fred Jordan, who I hadn't seen or played with since 1979. Regardless, I still remembered that this commanding presence between the posts was my former teammate.) He made a couple of amazing saves and we had a great conversation at half time. I think I gave Fred some extra motivation at halftime when I told him that one of my Belmont teammates had played for....Williams.
My deepest sympathies to Fred's family and all those who knew and loved Fred.”

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 6A - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

From Fred's Amherst classmates: (Conr. from Part 1A)

“Fred Jordan intimidated the heck out of me. When I arrived at Amherst as a naive 18 year-old freshman, Fred was one of the first people I met in our hallway in Morrow. I thought I was smart - this guy used words I'd never even heard of. I played baseball - this guy was a 6'3" lefty who could throw mid 90's fastballs. I played soccer - how would I ever get the ball past a lightning quick goalie like Fred? I thought I could sing (at least in the shower) - this guy could be an opera singer. I thought I would be able to do OK with the girls at Amherst - my God, look at this guy Fred! What chance did the rest of us have when Amherst was admitting people like this?
Obviously, after getting to know Fred, the intimidation subsided and the admiration, respect, and friendship remained. He was an incredibly talented, warm, gregarious friend to us all during our time at Amherst. We all tend to lose touch over the years as life gets in the way, but the fond memories will always remain fresh. Anyone who will be attending the Memorial Service this weekend, please share with his family how meaningful Fred's presence was to his old friends from college and how he will be sadly missed.

(About the note above) “You really captured his spirit. So much so that I'm getting on a plane Friday night and I'll see whoever is there in Needham on Saturday."

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 2A - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

My name is Tom Cronin, and I was an Amherst classmate and soccer teammate of Fred’s.

Members of our class at Amherst (1982) and our soccer group from that era have both been deeply saddened and profoundly affected by Fred’s passing. There have been emails forwarded within those groups that I thought might be of support to Fred’s loved ones, and I was concerned that they might never see them.

The emails below are from members of those groups. Given the nature of email ‘exchanges’, most of these were not intended to be sent as a particular individual’s words to Fred’s family and friends. Most are just a line or two. As a result, I have removed the names of the people sending the emails. I am sharing these simply to add to the chorus of loving remembrances of Fred.

Also, I was hoping to post all of these in one entry, but there was a 400 character maximum, and posts seemed to not come to the memories area in the order they were posted. For the marring of the appearance of the memory book that has resulted, I very much apologize. If one follows the name labels from Part 1 to Part 7, the flow should be continuous.

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 1A - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

A remembrance of Fred from an Amherst Classmate:

From classmates:
“Fred Jordan intimidated the hell out of me. When I arrived at Amherst as a naive 18 year-old freshman, Fred was one of the first people I met in our hallway in Morrow. I thought I was smart - this guy used words I'd never even heard of. I played baseball - this guy was a 6'3" lefty who could throw mid 90's fastballs. I played soccer - how would I ever get the ball past a lightning quick goalie like Fred? I thought I could sing (at least in the shower) - this guy could be an opera singer. I thought I would be able to do OK with the girls at Amherst - my God, look at this guy Fred! What chance did the rest of us have when Amherst was admitting people like this?
Obviously, after getting to know Fred, the intimidation subsided and the admiration, respect, and friendship remained. He was an incredibly talented, warm, gregarious friend to us all during our time at Amherst. We all tend to lose touch over the years as life gets in the way, but the fond memories will always remain fresh. Anyone who will be attending the Memorial Service this weekend, please share with his family how meaningful Fred's presence was to his old friends from college and how he will be sadly missed.

(About the note above) “You really captured his spirit. So much so that I'm getting on a plane Friday night and I'll see whoever is there in Needham on Saturday."

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 2A - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

Memories of Fred's Amherst Soccer Teammates (Cont.)

“When I think of my memories with the our soccer group, and then recognize that one is now gone, the combination of appreciation of being part of such a brotherhood, and sadness at the loss, leaves me searching for both questions and answers.
Aside from the athleticism and strength of will that kept the goals out and made him our backbone on the field, and the voice that commanded attention (and, amongst other things, serenaded me at my 40th birthday), I will keep a vivid memory of Fred, at 20, in Paris. In the memory, Fred is deliriously happy, speaking great French, stealing hearts, and telling a wonderful story about looking for the bar at which we had agreed to meet near Notre Dame (it was called 'Au Petit Bar'). (Fred's story, with the last line almost shouted, was: "I asked a couple of people if they knew where 'Au Petit Bar' (The Little Bar) was, and, finally, one disgusted Parisian replied before stomping away: "Il y a beaucoup de petit bar en Paris!" (There are many little bars in Paris!)
May he rest in peace, and may we all band even more closely together following this tragedy.”

“I am so saddened by this tragic news. I had the great good fortune to play against Fred in an Over the Hill soccer match last spring. I did not know that Fred was the 'keeper for the Medfield team, but as soon as the first cross came into the box, this 'keeper leapt for the ball and called out "KEEPER", and I knew instantly that it was Fred Jordan, who I hadn't seen or played with since 1979. Regardless, I still remembered that this commanding presence between the posts was my former teammate. :>) He made a couple of amazing saves and we had a great conversation at half time. I think I gave Fred some extra motivation at halftime when I told him that one of my Belmont teammates had played for....Williams.
My deepest sympathies to Fred's family and all those who knew and loved Fred.”

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 6 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

Memories from Fred’s Amherst Soccer Teammates - cont.: (this memory is continued below in Part 5 - again apologies on how this is winding up ordered in the Memory Book)

“Fred played 4 years of soccer at Amherst, the first year with Dave Hixon and the JV or “Youngsters” as we called ourselves and then three years with Peter Gooding. Fred was one of the few goal keepers I have ever known that could throw the ball farther than he could kick it. His drop kick was fine, but his left handed cannon of an arm was immense.
Senior year we were playing Springfield on a Wednesday at Amherst and as the game wound down, our comfortable 2-0 lead was suddenly in jeopardy - as Springfield scored and was pressing for the equalizer by the goal closer to Merrill.
With less than 5 minutes left I saw a ball moving dangerously toward our goal 12-yards in front of the goal and moved from my left back position to clear it. I am left footed, but need to strike this ball clear with my less-strong right foot. As a Springfield attacker closed in, I moved toward the center of the field and swung mightily at the sphere and almost completely whiffed . . . I then glanced over my shoulder in horror to see that not only was the ball still headed for our own goal, but I have deflected it so it will land perfectly in the upper right corner of the net. Fred made a guttural sound and launched himself to his left actually leaving the ground and got the fingertips of his left hand on the ball just enough to push it wide for a corner kick. He yelled my name in his booming bass as he backed into position for the ensuing corner - head on a swivel back and forth: “You Owe Me”. All the while fighting back a smile. We held on to win the game 2-1, and Fred loved to remind me of this save whenever he could.

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 4 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

Memories of Fred's Amherst Soccer Teammates (Cont.) - My apologies for making a mess of the site in the interest of sharing each of these)

“This is one of the saddest things I've encountered in a long time. My heart goes out to all of you and to the Jordan family. I wish I had something soothing to say . . . but I don't. I am floored. Hold your loved ones close.”

“I’m essentially speechless about this turn for our close mate, Fred. You are all such kindred spirits in these especially difficult times for our dear friend, his family, and for all of us extended brethren feeling at such a loss; your reminiscences help to soothe the heart and soul. Wish I could be there Saturday to give you all (and others) a big hug. I’m so very grateful many of you will be there for Fred’s family, and most especially for his children. Thinking warmly of all of you in these somber times . . .”

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 7 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

(Memories of Fred's Amherst Soccer Teammates - consolidated, cont.)

“When I think of my memories with the our soccer group, and then recognize that one is now gone, the combination of appreciation of being part of such a brotherhood, and sadness at the loss, leaves me searching for both questions and answers.
Aside from the athleticism and strength of will that kept the goals out and made him our backbone on the field, and the voice that commanded attention (and, amongst other things, serenaded me at my 40th birthday), I will keep a vivid memory of Fred, at 20, in Paris. In the memory, Fred is deliriously happy, speaking great French, stealing hearts, and telling a wonderful story about looking for the bar at which we had agreed to meet near Notre Dame (it was called 'Au Petit Bar'). (Fred's story, with the last line almost shouted, was: "I asked a couple of people if they knew where 'Au Petit Bar' (The Little Bar) was, and, finally, one disgusted Parisian replied before stomping away: "Il y a beaucoup de petit bar en Paris!" (There are many little bars in Paris!)
May he rest in peace, and may we all band even more closely together following this tragedy.”

“I am so saddened by this tragic news. I had the great good fortune to play against Fred in an Over the Hill soccer match last spring. I did not know that Fred was the 'keeper for the Medfield team, but as soon as the first cross came into the box, this 'keeper leapt for the ball and called out "KEEPER", and I knew instantly that it was Fred Jordan, who I hadn't seen or played with since 1979. Regardless, I still remembered that this commanding presence between the posts was my former teammate. :>) He made a couple of amazing saves and we had a great conversation at half time. I think I gave Fred some extra motivation at halftime when I told him that one of my Belmont teammates had played for....Williams.
My deepest sympathies to Fred's family and all those who knew and loved Fred.”

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 6 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

(Continued from the memory above - Amherst Soccer Teammates)

Coach Gooding nicknamed Fred “Blockhead” because of his large granite-like chin and if Fred did something silly or stupid it was “Blockish” or “Blockheaded” of him.
I always remember being disappointed that Fred missed the team picture before the Wesleyan game. 10:30 kickoff, 10 AM picture. Fred only lived in North so he only had to roll out of bed to be there. He arrived in the nick of time for the game and the extra sleep must have done him good as he played the game of his life and we beat Wesleyan for the first time in four years, 2-1. We won the Little 3 the next week at Williams, with Fred assisting on the only goal with a long throw.
May Fred now rest in peace . . .”

“This is so sad, I didn’t see Fred much over the years and have not been very close but he felt in some ways like a real brother when we were at Amherst and that feeling was no different when we all saw each other in recent years. I feel that after 50 years of life experience, things can start to get really interesting and meaningful and we can shed old things that held us back in life. I’m so sorry to hear this news and appreciate that there are so many people who will be there to support his kids and family.”

“Just last night I watched Stand By Me – a great film about friends and having each other’s back. Well, Fred had our backs.
I can remember singing a capella in the bus on the way home from games like it was yesterday.
At the end of Stand By Me, one character comments, "I hadn't seen him in 10 years, but I will miss him forever". That's because there aren't so many people who care for us so much that we don't miss them when they're gone.
The last lines of the film are "I never had friends again like I did when I was 12. Does anyone?" I've never had friends again like our soccer group, and I never expect to.
With a very heavy heart . . .”

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 5 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

From Fred’s Amherst Soccer Teammates:

“Fred played 4 years of soccer at Amherst, the first year with Dave Hixon and the JV or “Youngsters” as we called ourselves and then three years with Peter Gooding. Fred was one of the few goal keepers I have ever known that could throw the ball farther than he could kick it. His drop kick was fine, but his left handed cannon of an arm was immense.
Senior year we were playing Springfield on a Wednesday at Amherst and as the game wound down, our comfortable 2-0 lead was suddenly in jeopardy - as Springfield scored and was pressing for the equalizer by the goal closer to Merrill.
With less than 5 minutes left I saw a ball moving dangerously toward our goal 12-yards in front of the goal and moved from my left back position to clear it. I am left footed, but need to strike this ball clear with my less-strong right foot. As a Springfield attacker closed in, I moved toward the center of the field and swung mightily at the sphere and almost completely whiffed . . . I then glanced over my shoulder in horror to see that not only was the ball still headed for our own goal, but I have deflected it so it will land perfectly in the upper right corner of the net. Fred made a guttural sound and launched himself to his left actually leaving the ground and got the fingertips of his left hand on the ball just enough to push it wide for a corner kick. He yelled my name in his booming bass as he backed into position for the ensuing corner - head on a swivel back and forth: “You Owe Me”. All the while fighting back a smile. We held on to win the game 2-1, and Fred loved to remind me of this save whenever he could. (Like in the 25th Reunion book)

(Continued below)

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 4 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

A continuation of thoughts from Fred's Amherst Classmates:
“Thanks for sharing your stories and especially Fred's remarks for our 25th. His family is lucky to have had such a present force who loved them so. My thoughts go out to all of them.“

“ Unbelievable. My last day with Fred was last year at Beaver Creek skiing and dining with his and my kids ...all the same age. My heart goes out to them. That was a memorable day then and now has a whole new meaning for us.”

“He always radiated a happy glow and this news just seems so impossible and so very sad”

“Hard to imagine Fred as anything other than vibrantly alive.”

“I am so sad. This just can't be. So tall and handsome in his day....in our days. RIP Fred.”

“His smile could warm a room. I am so sad to learn this.”

“Fred lived next door to me freshman year. It's amazing how those memories remain so vivid. May he rest in peace. “

“His smile warmed the room, and so did Fred's voice. Rest in Peace, Fred.”

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 3 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

A continuation of the posting above of thoughts from Fred's College Classmates:

(Referring to the previous posting) “You really captured his spirit. So much so that I'm getting on a plane Friday night and I'll see whoever is there in Needham on Saturday."

“Fred was such a sweet guy. So many talents. He loved his kids.”

“I am saddened to hear this news. Fred was a very good guy. My thoughts are with his family.”

“With Freddy's passing, we lose a genuinely decent, kind and very talented man and we are all reminded how temporary our stay is and how precious each day and each year is.”

“A great guy, gone way too soon. For the rest of us, a brief musing in honor of - and dedicated to - Fred's amazing time here on earth: 'I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I have lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.' (Diane Ackerman, 1948 - )"

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 2 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

My name is Tom Cronin, and I was an Amherst classmate and soccer teammate of Fred’s.

Members of our Amherst class (1982) and our soccer group from that era have both been deeply saddened and profoundly affected by Fred’s passing. There have been emails forwarded within those groups that I thought might be of support to Fred’s loved ones, and I was concerned that they might never see them.

The emails which follow are from members of those groups. Given the nature of email ‘exchanges’, most of these were not intended to be sent as a particular individual’s words to Fred’s family and friends. Most are just a line or two. As a result, I've removed the names of the people sending the emails. I am sharing these simply to add to the chorus of loving remembrances of Fred.

From classmates:

“Fred Jordan intimidated the hell out of me. When I arrived at Amherst as a naive 18 year-old freshman, Fred was one of the first people I met in our hallway in Morrow. I thought I was smart - this guy used words I'd never even heard of. I played baseball - this guy was a 6'3" lefty who could throw mid 90's fastballs. I played soccer - how would I ever get the ball past a lightning quick goalie like Fred? I thought I could sing (at least in the shower) - this guy could be an opera singer. I thought I would be able to do OK with the girls at Amherst - my God, look at this guy Fred! What chance did the rest of us have when Amherst was admitting people like this?

Obviously, after getting to know Fred, the intimidation subsided and the admiration, respect, and friendship remained. He was an incredibly talented, warm, gregarious friend to us all during our time at Amherst. We all tend to lose touch over the years as life gets in the way, but the fond memories will always remain fresh. Anyone who will be attending the Memorial Service this weekend, please share with his family how meaningful Fred's presence was to his old friends from college and how he will be sadly missed."

Posted by Tom Cronin - Part 1 - Winchester, MA - Friend/classmate/teammate   October 26, 2012

Jennifer, I was so very sorry to read the news about Fred this morning. He was one of the most joyful people I have ever met. I clicked on the link to this page and immediately grinned upon seeing his picture. It brought back many memories of his spirit and infective, positive personality. I am very, very happy he had the chance to teach kids; I am certain he was amazing. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Posted by Sharon Sweeney Carmody - St Louis Park, MN - Classmate from Tuck   October 26, 2012

Dearest Fred: I have to write this in the present tense because my mind can't accept that you're o longer alive. I always enjoyed hearing from you on Nantuckt. Boasting that you were there, and I was only on the little Isand of Martha's Vineyard.

You've been a friend since I was going through chemo for breast cancer. And you cheered me on when you saw me stumble and almost fall with my new cane.

You were a force to be reckoned with, and what a dynamo. Always upbeat, always smiling. Lots of times always singing.

I'll always keep my memories of you close to my heart.

Much love. . .

Posted by susan rosinoff - edgartown, MA - friend   October 26, 2012

I choose to remember Fred for his zest for living and his gift for giving. He was our happiness keeper, always checking in, always helping out, and continually putting his friends and family first. Fred was a great man among so many common men. My heart aches for his loss, something from which I will not soon recover. The world already misses him.

Posted by David Osborn - Wayland, MA - Pal of Fred's   October 26, 2012

I just heard about Fred's passing from a friend who lives in upstate New York, who I hadn't heard from in a long time - leave it to Fred to connect a couple of old friends (albeit in tragic circumstances)!

Fred was a fraternity brother at Amherst, a couple of years behind me, and a standout in an outstanding group of brothers like Curry, McLean, and Waskowitz.

The shock will give way to the terrible, lingering sadness and questions that will never be answered until we all can join Fred, but I remember when I lost my best friend, many years ago and a co-worker of mine gave me a copy of Housman's poignant poem, "To an Athlete Dying Young" - I attach it here in the hopes that the images it conjures are of comfort to you as they were to me:

"THE time you won your town the race
We chaired you through the market-place;
Man and boy stood cheering by,
And home we brought you shoulder-high.

To-day, the road all runners come,
Shoulder-high we bring you home,
And set you at your threshold down,
Townsman of a stiller town.

Smart lad, to slip betimes away
From fields where glory does not stay
And early though the laurel grows
It withers quicker than the rose.

Eyes the shady night has shut
Cannot see the record cut,
And silence sounds no worse than cheers
After earth has stopped the ears:

Now you will not swell the rout
Of lads that wore their honours out,
Runners whom renown outran
And the name died before the man.

So set, before its echoes fade,
The fleet foot on the sill of shade,
And hold to the low lintel up
The still-defended challenge-cup.

And round that early-laurelled head
Will flock to gaze the strengthless dead,
And find unwithered on its curls
The garland briefer than a girl's."

God bless you all,

Posted by Tim McKenna - Longmeadow, MA - College friend   October 26, 2012

A letter to Fred...

Dear Fred,

As you know, your brother John and I have been long time, close friends. Best friends. You and I have only had a few chance meetings, but I feel I knew you well, as John shared so much of your life and accomplishments with me. He looked up to you, admired you and was in awe of your abilities and accomplishments. The memories you created will live on his life forever and ever. I will be the best "brother" to John that I can be in your absence, but will never fill your shoes. We'll laugh, cry and talk about you for a long, long time. The great ones always leave great memories.

I remember when you called me to landscape your home in 1989. I was just starting out, I was young, naive, and inexperienced in business. But you gave me a chance, and I was grateful. When you called me to let me know that you were going in another direction you did so in a way that was encouraging, and made me feel the best that I could about losing a sale. That's a gift. I'll never forget that. It made me stronger and want to do better.

You are now in Gods kingdom, and I'm sure that all that you've done on earth will only continue in heaven. I'm sure you have left us with no regrets, no enemies. I'm sure the lives you have touched will only be greater enhanced by the memories you have created. You will live on and we will meet again, someday.

God Bless You, my friend, for all that you have done and for the lives you have touched.

Keith Upham

Posted by Keith Upham - Natick, MA - Friend   October 26, 2012

Many years ago my daughter walked the halls of Forum selling Girl Scout cookies. Her encounter with Fred had a lasting impact. When she approached him, he reminded her to "shake hands, look me in the eye, and say thanks for the business". Through the years, she has reminded me of this lesson and frequently asked "Who was that guy'?" Such a brief encounter, such a lasting impact. We will miss you, Fred, but you live on in our hearts. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Christie

Posted by Christie Jacobs - MA - Forum Colleague   October 26, 2012

To the boy with the voice and goodness that could melt a million hearts, who later grew up to be such an amazing and talented man, son, father and teacher...you will be missed, but will always remembered. I wish for you eternal peace.

To your family, I am so sorry for your loss. My most sincere condolences to all.

Posted by Elise Jakabhazy - Weston, MA   October 26, 2012

My deepest sympathy to Fred's family. Fred brightened my day at 6am spin classes often. He always made we laugh, smile and reflect. Fred often spoke with love and pride about his family. My thoughts and prayers are with you. c

Posted by Ann Calello Groccia - Wellesley, MA - friend   October 26, 2012

Dear Jennifer, Jake, Sam, and Ali, Please accept our deepest sympothy. We are shocked and saddened to here this news. We will keep you all in our prayers. Susan, Roger, Marissa and Mikael Badeau

Posted by The Badeau Family - Sherborn, MA - friend   October 26, 2012

Confession: I am a firm believer that, "In Life, everything happens in perfect divine order." However, with this particular news, I am truly struggling with this Theory.

Fred Jordan's Life was not supposed to end like this. Not here. Not now. Not Fred Jordan. I shouldn't be writing this for about another 45 years or so. It just seemed like, out of all the people I've ever met, he was the one who was supposed to have the Happy Hollywood Ending.

Fred was a ROCKSTAR. Everyone felt it the moment they met him.
I was fortunate enough to go through High School with him, as well as a few summers at Weston Drama Workshop. My Mother and Fred's Father were both teachers in the High School Science Department. Fred was a year ahead of me, and he and my brother, Larry, were Best Buds. This translated into DOUBLE fortune for me as Fred spent many a weekend crashing at our house so he wouldn't have to make the long trek from Weston back to Needham, (where he lived), when he did all his extra curricular activities. Whenever he was over, I'd play it TOTALLY cool, but, secretly inside...GIDDY. AS. HELL. He was magical to be around. But I always saw him as a Brother-From-Another-Mother, and he was someone who I really looked up to.

Fred had it ALL. Classic leading-man good looks, Swagger, Smarts, Humor, Talent - Athlete, Musician, Actor - AND a beautiful Heart. Fred was the guy who would not only be told to go forth and multiply, but ordered to The Lab at MIT to be immediately studied, researched and blue-printed to serve as The Model for future generations.

Thank you, Mr. and Mrs. Jordan, for your decision, way back when, to send Fred to Weston High School, instead of Needham. We are all so blessed to have had the opportunity to have known him and spend time with him. My heartfelt condolences to you and your Family members, to Fred's wife and precious children, and to all his Friends and Students.
Our Planet has truly lost one of its Best and Brightest.

Posted by Karen Lynne (Schwartz) - Los Angeles, CA - High School friend   October 26, 2012

To Jen, Jake, Sam and Ali - Our heartfelt condolences to you. We were stunned to hear of Fred's passing. Our hearts go out to you all.
Heidi, Jack, Johnnie and Will Gilmore

Posted by Heidi Gilmore - Sherborn, MA - Neighbor   October 26, 2012

Ali and family,

Our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow. We pray for peace and courage for you and hope the cherished memories bring you comfort.

In friendship and sympathy,

Herb, Lori and Haley Cogliano
Silver Mavericks

Posted by The Cogliano Family    October 26, 2012

Heaven has a new angel.

Posted by Maureen - Wellesley, MA - Spin class participant   October 26, 2012

Fred truly made our world a better place in light of his deep intelligence, heart, courage, honor and truth. We are all better off for having known him. Somehow, Fred was already so evolved in his thinking and attitude even as a college student. Even those of us who didn't know him well will somehow miss him.
I wish his family strength in the days and months ahead. Hopefully, they can find comfort knowing that they got more of a good thing in a relatively short amount of time than most people ever get.
May God bless all of you.
Rest in Peace, Fred.
Beverly (Majteles) Floersheimer

Posted by Beverly Majteles Floersheimer - greenwich, CT - college classmate   October 26, 2012

Posted by Bev Jaques - Wenham, MA - singing friend of Fred    October 25, 2012

I am a close friend of Fred's, and we sang together in The Works for 16 years. Through all The Works' performances and rehearsals, Fred was such a force. Not only because he was the tallest and sang with his powerful, precise bass, but because he always had a smile- so totally loving the music, the rhythm, the company and deep bonds that he made with us in The Works - he expressed joy throughout, and we (Sarah, Dan, Dana, Patrick and I) all loved to be around him.

There are no words that can express the sadness we all feel about losing Fred. He pushed us to "sing better" by "mastering notes, rhythm and words." He had so many gifts to share with kids and adults - a love of music, an extraordinary gift for singing, a passion for sports, people and life.
As we all grieve the loss of our dear friend Fred, the music he made with his friends is all the more special to hear. (I posted Fred singing "Ring of Fire" with The Works on the audio memory.) When Fred sang, he was happy, and it was a joy and privilege to sing with him for all those wonderful years.

My thoughts of strength, support and love go out all the Jordan family.

Bev Jaques (soprano in The Works 1994 - 2010)

Posted by Bev Jaques - Wenham, MA - singing friend in The Works   October 25, 2012

I miss seeing you Fred. You always had something witty and relevant to say when we would rush past each other in the hallway at school. Our friendship was brief but you leave a big void my friend. My deepest sympathies to your beautiful family.

Posted by Cathy Stranberg - Weston, MA - work friend   October 25, 2012

Posted by Beverly Jaques - Wenham, MA - singer,The Works -Fred's group   October 25, 2012

Fred Jordan was my teacher, in fourth grade. When I herd about his passing, I just couldn't think straight. It took me so long to process the information. Fred Jordan was more than just a teacher to me. He was My friend. While I was in fourth grade, I was trying to get into a private school. Fred sent a recommendation letter to the school. I will never forget that. Fred was funny. I would laugh about ten times everyday because of him. He looks out for you like you are his own child. Fred is an amazing father. At an auction, he won a chance to throw the first pitch at a red sox game. He gave that opportunity to his son. I will never forget Fred. I will never forget how he made me laugh, what he taught me as a student, and I will never forget what an amazing man he was. He inspired me to be like him. He passed away. I will always have a piece of him in my heart. That piece will never go away. Never. I will always love him.

Posted by Cole Zetterquist - Weston, MA - Student   October 25, 2012

Fred and I played soccer together at Weston High and were in the play "Dracula Baby" together. I loved watching him perform with "The Town Criers." And it was great to hear when he started teaching fourth grade at Field school. Fred's warmth and easy-going nature made him fun to be around. His talent and confidence made him a natural leader and someone to emulate.

Even though Fred and I haven't stayed in touch since High School except via Facebook, I know I speak for many, many people when I say Fred will be sorely missed.

May his family, loved ones and all who knew him find peace and be comforted by our good memories of him. Rest in Peace, Fred.

Posted by Bill Kanzer - Waltham, MA - High School Friend   October 25, 2012

Gracious fishing host off Sconset, mountain bike guide through the back roads of Madaket, wine enthusiast, and above all good friend...these are some of the lasting memories of Fred that I will carry. My thoughts and prayers go out to his entire family.

Posted by Al Hanmer - Sherborn, MA   October 25, 2012

Fred was Father in Life With Father. I was Mother. He had all his lines down pat, this not being his first show, and gracefully, humorfully, helped me in his own special way to get over my stage fright, as follows: the show was to open with me descending the staircase from behind the curtain onto the stage delivering the first line. I paused at the top and said 'I can't do this". Fred calmly said "yes you can" and pushed me down the stairs into the limelight!

He was kind and funny and smart and wry and is surely an angel in the front row looking out for all of us. Thank you to his parents for raising a fantastic human being. My heart goes out to all of his family and friends for the loss of Fred among us.

Posted by Jamy Buchanan Madeja - Weston and now Boston and Rockport, Mass, MA - Friend   October 25, 2012

Candle

May peace and love surround your children and family at this difficult time

Posted by Rachel Hickson - Medfield, MA - co-worker @bsc Wellesley    October 25, 2012

My deepest sympathies go out to the Jordan family at this very sad time. Fred was always there at his kid's various sporting events, coaching and volunteering for all kinds of stuff, all for the benefit of DS youth. You will be sorely missed!

May you rest in peace. Amen

Posted by Kemon Prescott - Dover/Sherborn, MA - Friend   October 25, 2012

Fred’s sweet welcome when I visited him in his 4th grade classroom during Parents Night last spring reminded me of his kind and generous spirit in HS. The back of each little desk chair wore a tightly stretched t-shirt from the student who sat there, with a life-sized cardboard cut-out of the child’s self-portrait attached at the neck of the shirt with a Popsicle stick. I realized then, that Fred loved all children as his own, and dreamed of a world where joy and self-esteem were paramount. I will always cherish his message.

Posted by Pamela Foster - Weston, MA   October 25, 2012

Fred brought so much to the Sherborn community. As a devoted coach, father and friend, Fred touched many people in so many ways. I will always remember his taking charge of the baseball program and fixing whatever was not working with a positive approach. And, every Halloween Fred was at the door greeting hundreds of kids. We will miss Fred's passion and smile. My heart goes out to Jen, Jake, Sam and Ali. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Sheila Green - Sherborn, MA - Friend   October 25, 2012

I met Fred in 1993 when I joined The Forum Corporation as a young professional. Working with Fred gave me the confidence that I needed to stretch my capabilities and learn and grow. And his voice! What a gift he shared at many Forum Follies. He had such a positive presence, and the impact he had on those around him -- colleagues and clients alike -- stands out in my mind. While I haven't seen Fred in well over 10 years, the joy he reflected inspires me still today. What a good man. My deepest, deepest sympathies to his family, his students, and all those who shared the honor of knowing him.

Posted by Wendy Kelly - Sarasota, FL - former colleague   October 25, 2012

It has been a few years since I last spoke with Fred, but I will always remember him as a good friend and father who had many gifts. He was very thoughtful and insightful and had a true sense of compassion for others. He was also an accomplished angler and I had the privilege of sharing some great days fishing with him in Nantucket and Wyoming. He will be missed by all those who had the privilege of knowing him and my thoughts and prayers are with Jennifer, Jake, Sam and Ali.

Posted by Bob Hamilton - New York, NY   October 25, 2012

I am so sorry to hear of Fred's sudden passing. He likely wouldn't even remember me but I remember him. I was new to Forum in 1996. At that time Fred was one of the people that stood out. I remember him singing in Follies and I remember looking up to him for his amazing example of positive attitude and Forum spirit. Fred very clearly was a very special gift to all of those around him. I'm very very sorry.

Posted by Sylvia Celentano - Forum Colleague   October 25, 2012

Jen:

My thoughts are with you and your family. I won't forget his smile and laugh and the great vibe you two brought to our class.

Peter O Torvik

Posted by Peter Torvik - Minneapolis, NE - Classmate at Tuck   October 25, 2012

Its been nearly 15 years since I last saw or talked to Fred, but he is as crystal clear to me now as he was in 1999. As has been said, he was a luminous soul who lit up the lives of virtually all he knew, and as my example attests, that light lasted long after having seen or heard from him. What a loss - for his children whom he clearly loved more than anything in the world - and for the rest of us whose lives crossed his, whether deeply or tangentially. Fred, my wish is that peace is with you now, and that your children take solace in your love and the positive impact you had on so many.

Posted by Beth Cliff - Wayland, MA - former colleague   October 25, 2012

I remember the first time I ran into Fred after Tuck. I was at the Sherborn playground with a couple of mom friends and our kids and there was Fred having the time of his life with his kids. It was clear to me from that moment on that being with kids was his true calling. My heart goes out to Jen and their family.
Barb

Posted by Barb Fletcher - Wayland, MA - Friend    October 25, 2012

At Weston High, my sole purpose for learning to play the oboe was so that I could sit next to Fred in the orchestra - he was that charismatic. I never learned to play as well as he did, but he was kind and encouraging. We sang together both at Weston and then at Amherst where, as an underclassman, I felt privileged to already have a friendship with him. We didn't stay in touch over the years but I will always remember his easy laugh and his kind nature. His charisma - it seems - continued to touch the lives of many. My thoughts are with his family.

Posted by Sally Vernon Hubbell - Wayland, MA - Weston High and Amherst College   October 25, 2012

I haven't seen Fred for many years, but my memories of him from High School are still vibrant and strong. I know his spirit, kindness and warmth will be missed - even by those knew him so long ago.

Posted by Margaret Vernon Young - Pelham, NY - High school friend   October 25, 2012

I was very sad to get this news, and when I did a stream of vibrant "Fred" memories came to mind.

I was 22, trolling for meaningful work in a down New England economy and telling people my ideal job was, "To work at a place with smart, funny people who like what they do and do purposeful work." Most people just chuckled and said "good luck with that!" Then I met Fred who responded, "I work at a place like that." He soon reached out to me when he heard about a new job opening, and within a few weeks of our initial conversation I was working at Forum too.

Fred gave me my first break, modelled care, humor, enthusiasm, and how to put your energy in non-work passions too -- like music and most importantly family. Thanks to all for leaving memories of Fred, and my deep condolences and prayers for all friends and family.

Posted by Katie Brick - Chicago, IL - Former colleague   October 25, 2012

I am so saddened to hear of Fred's death. I worked with Fred at Forum from 1989 until he left the company. He was a wonderful colleague and a great salesperson -- to this day, when people talk about the "giants of Forum Sales," Fred's name is always first among them. And, like so many others, I have very fond memories of Fred leading The Five Why's a capella group at every Forum Follies. He is still greatly missed at Forum and we will always remember him.

Posted by Jocelyn Davis - Santa Fe, NM - colleague from Forum   October 25, 2012

Candle

Fred, it was a gift to have had you as a neighbor and friend while I lived in Cider Hill. Memories of Jessye's first 9 years are full of good times in your home and your back yard. Jessye and Jake - they were inseparable and you were a constant - nurturing them in their play and friendship. You made a positive difference in the lives of so many children and my daughter is blessed to be one of them. Jenna, too, spent her teen years babysitting your children and benefiting from her friendship with you and Jen. I have wonderful memories of parties and dinners shared with you and the family. You were always the warmest of hosts; your spirit filling the room with cheer and humor. Thank you for the memories. Thank you for sharing your exceptional self. I will always remember your greeting me with the question: "what is the most interesting thing that has happened to you lately?' You sincerely wanted to know the answer and great conversations always followed. I'm going to use that question often now -- in memory of you. Too sad that your time here was too short. There is no doubt that your life was well spent. My deepest condolences to your family and prayers that love will sustain them in their lives without you.

Posted by Lynne Stein Comtois - Thompson, CT - past neighbor and friend   October 25, 2012

Candle

Fred, you have soared on butterfly wings to Heaven where you find peace and unconditional love. Hear on earth hearts are broken until we meet again. We all have ups and downs, yet great is our sorrow that you left this world where you accomplished so much and gave your full measure. God holds you now and love never dies. Deepest sympathy goes to your loving family and friends.
Sincerely,
Carolyn Beckwith Hoyler, Boudinote

Posted by Carolyn Hoyler - Princeton, NJ - Boudinote friend   October 25, 2012

Fred was the first instructor we hired 7 years ago at Spynergy. From the moment he got up to teach his first class, we realized this guy was bringing something special to the studio. Dancing to "Devo", spinning to songs like Meatloaf's Paradise by the Dashboard Light, Musical theme classes (i.e. "Women with Attitude") ----- and ALL classes were sprinkled with his special brand of family anecdotes, motivational language and "Fred-isms" (aphorisms like "Get What You Came For"). We have received countless messages from Spynergy Wellesley riders with a common theme: this guy was much more than a spin instructor, he was someone who connected with people and in his own way inspired them and made them feel better. Quite amazing actually.....we will miss him, but we are better for having known him, even if only for 50 minutes a few times a week.

Posted by Bill Pryor - Needham, MA - friend / co-spinner   October 25, 2012

Fred Jordan was one of my favorite people and a true Renaissance man. It is so great to read the memories people wrote because they paint a picture of his vast interests and talents: as a professional, singer, athlete, spin instructor, goalie, teacher -- and of course, his favorite role, which was being a dad.

I hired Fred at Forum, after a very short interview, and he was a fabulous salesperson, talented writer, and charismatic colleague who would light up a room. He was very clear about his values and made many courageous decisions to take paths that others would never have taken. When you asked Fred, "What's new?", the response was often inspiring. When Jake, Sam & Ali were born, he had tears in his eyes and said they were the 3 best days of his life.

Fred, thanks for letting me work, sing and laugh with you. Our times producing Forum Follies are etched in my memory forever and you made the world a better place.

Posted by Diane Hessan - Boston, MA - Friend   October 25, 2012

I have a couple of CDs Fred made, just for spinning. That was my sole relationship with him, but it felt, through the bond of music, that we had a deep connection. I really looked forward to his classes, not just for the workout, but for the time spent with such a warm guy who took such pleasure in helping us all "be better".

Posted by Guy DeFeis - Wellesley, MA - friend   October 25, 2012

When I was in high school, my father used to pick up the Town Crier each week and say, "Let's see what Fred Jordan has been up to." And sure enough, there'd be a photo of Fred making a spectacular dive for a soccer ball, or playing the lead in that season's musical. I think my dad was secretly thrilled that I knew this phenom. So was I. I feel so fortunate to have met early on in life one of those people who demonstrate it is possible to be brimming with talent and all the rest and still not be the slightest bit arrogant. My deep sympathies to his family.

Posted by Jill Hodges - Seattle, WA - high school friend   October 25, 2012

We've lost a very talented man who was always a delight to be around. Condolences to Fred's family.

Posted by RON KOPROWSKI - Greenville, SC - Friend and Co-worker at Forum   October 25, 2012

It stills sticks in my memory about how kind he always was at the school. People would hurt my feelings and he would stand up for me without a doubt. He wasn't just my teacher he was my friend. I've been going to school for eight years now and I have never had a better teacher.

Posted by Holly Astley-Sparke - Weston, MA - Student   October 25, 2012

At Back To School night 2 years ago Mr. Jordan told the parents of our then 4th graders that he wanted this to be the best year of our children’s lives. It didn’t take long to understand what he meant and to realize that his prediction came true.

As parents we were blown away by Mr. Jordan’s ability to reach and motivate our children. Early on that year our son (Peter) made positive advances that were due to Mr. Jordan. He created a safe environment for the kids where they were genuinely inspired to learn. Mr. Jordan also had a unique approach: his Student Spotlight speaking series is one example -- and I loved to hear how he would sing and play the guitar in class. He took interest in each child and went beyond the call of duty with check-in emails, phone calls, and a year-end personal letter that Peter will treasure always.

Words can’t express our gratitude to Mr. J for positively shaping, inspiring, teaching and most importantly believing in our son Peter.

The world needs more teachers like Mr. Jordan. It brings tears to my eyes knowing that more kids won’t experience his greatness.

Our thoughts and prayers are with Jennifer, your children and extended family.
Wendy, Chris, Peter & Ryan Chandor

Posted by Wendy Chandor - Weston, MA - Family From Field School   October 25, 2012

Fred was not only a colleague of mine but a dear friend. Fred started teaching at the Field School in 2010 and I was assigned to be his mentor. I think I learned more from him than he did from me. Fred was a passionate teacher who cared deeply about his students and his fellow teachers. He touched everyone he came in contact with and he will truly be missed by the entire Field School Community. Jen, Jake, Sam and Ali, please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

As Fred once wrote in note- "Life is too short to not be intentional about making vibrant memories." I have and always will cherish and live by these words.

Posted by Katie Brown - Wayland, MA - colleague/friend   October 25, 2012

It was my true good luck to work with Fred when we were both at Lesley University becoming teachers. When Fred came to our teaching group, he brought a different perspective as a career changer. For all of us fresh out of college, he was always sharing wise advice and wisdom, but at the same time was always ready to share a joke or funny moment. I truly loved getting to know him, and was actually just thinking of him this past week and thinking how great a teacher he must now be. Coming from Dartmouth myself, Fred and I would often wax nostalgic over Hanover---I remember him sharing fond memories of his times there with his wife and friends. Most of all, I remember how proud Fred was when he shared stories of his children with our group. His face always lit up when he talked about his family. My heart goes out to your family in this time. I feel so thankful to have known you Fred.

Posted by Lauren Meldonian - San Francisco, CA - friend   October 25, 2012

Our deepest condolences to all of the Jordan family. We were saddened to hear of your loss and our prayers and thoughts are with you all. Fred was a great Dad and husband. With fondness, Joanne, Kevin, Dylan, and Alana

Posted by Joanne Barrett - weston, FL - former neighbor   October 25, 2012

There are no words, I was just stunned by the news. I have many happy memories of time spent with Fred from Dracula Baby to the Sunday early morning paper route. My deep sympathy goes out to his parents, family and friends.

Posted by Larry Schwartz - Guilford, CT - High School Classmates   October 25, 2012

Mr. Jordan was my teacher. He made himself a friend. he was the kind of friend who there when his friends' needed him - even if it meant taking a twenty four hour trip to Detroit. He made us feel excited about school, if you had high confidence or not. We always had a bit of friendly competition at recess or outside of school. He was quite the person to look up to and I hope I can be like him some day.

Posted by cole nye - Weston, MA - Student at Field School   October 25, 2012

To all of Fred's family,

My deepest condolences. A terrible loss, of a truely great man. Fred was one of my "older" frat brothers at Amherst. He and my brother, Eric, were in the same class, and same frat, so naturally I joined Chi Psi to be with them. There I made great friends, Fred being one of them. Great memories of Fred at our many events...Tom Jones, Homecoming parties and concerts at Chi Psi and in the concert hall. He was a typical Amherst guy...a rennaisance man...brilliant, fun, athletic and musical. His deep voice was unmistakeable. I always said I got in because they needed a goalie for the hockey team...not Fred, he could have gone anywhere. But Amherst was perfect for him, as he was for Amherst.

But he was also a sensitive and caring man. He came to my brother, Eric's, funeral and relayed many happy stories to my parents at such a sad time. He truely made a difference that day...they actually smiled at hearing the stories, and I am forever grateful to him for that.

Now the two Chi Psi brothers are back together...so there may be a Tom Jones party and mud sliding, this spring, in Heaven. You'll know it when you see it...

"....'til the sun shall climb the Heavens no more." (Amherst)

I am so very sorry....we all lost a really good man.

Myles Keroack, A84

Posted by Myles Keroack - MA - Amherst College   October 25, 2012

Fred was one of the first people I remember having in my life, and though a few years have past since I last spoke with him, he made such an impact on me. I have often shared memories of the entire Jordan family with many people in my life, and there have never been anything but warm, positive, and beautiful things to say about all of them -- especially Fred.

The Jordans were my neighbors growing up, and Jake and I were best friends for many years; most of my childhood memories involve playing with Jake and Sam, and Fred was almost always a participant. I remember all the times that Fred helped us think up games to play, and would join in on games of soccer or basketball with us. He was full of warmth and wisdom, and moved through life with an aura of kindness and empathy. He was one of the funniest people I knew as a child, and he could always put a smile of all of our faces with his own goofy faces or silly stories. He was like a second father to me, and I looked up to him as someone to be like one day; he truly seemed to be the most well-rounded human possible. It's important to have good role models as a child, and every child who knew Fred had one in him.

To the Jordans -- my heart goes out to all of you. I love each and every one of you, and I hope that, through this difficult time, you find comfort and strength in one another and in the support of the many who care about you.

Posted by Jessye Stein - Boston, MA - Friend   October 25, 2012

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Fred, You simply amazed me every time I walked into one of your spin classes. Your smile, funny stories, love of life and family made each encounter a memorable one (no matter how early the class was!) Your absence is clearly a loss to so many but your life will be remembered with love forever.Thank you for making my days brighter.

Posted by Frances Simeone Tocci - Weston, MA - spin friend   October 25, 2012

I have found memories of Fred in high school, chorus, theatre.... A true friend, who was as kind and open in his youth as he was as an adult. There really are no words.... even though we were no close as adults, this is an enormous loss...... My deep sympathy goes out to his entire family and friends.

Posted by Lauren Fain - Boston, MA - High School Friend   October 25, 2012

Truly stunned to hear of this news. I met Fred in the 80s when we sang together in Masterworks. He was handsome, gregarious, charming, funny, talented, and so grand to be around. He had a wonderful way of really focusing when he talked with you...and we did that a lot. Gosh, I am suddenly flooded by memories: skiing in Vermont from that little A-frame by the brook, buying an inflatable raft to go flounder fishing in Marblehead harbor, the Esplanade on the 4th of July, lobsters in Maine, concerts Tanglewood, and Amherst alumni soccer games. The common ingredient is that for everyone who knew him, he was just plain fun to be around. Our paths have only crossed by chance over the years but it just doesn't seem possible that he's not around.

My condolences go out to Joe and Diane, as I cannot imagine losing a child--especially one as terrific as Fred. My sincerest sympathies go out to Jennifer and the kids, as I know you are grieving the loss of a tremendous husband and father. My heart aches for you. Rest in peace, Fred.

Posted by Anita (Cooley) Miller - Belmont, MA - Friend   October 24, 2012

Fred Jordan was a captain of our high school soccer team, and he was born to be a leader. Fred was exuberant and generous. He was gifted with all the talents we could imagine -- as an athlete, in the performing arts, and as a student. Even this many years after high school I can still remember his voice clearly. Thinking of Fred brings back happy memories for all of us, I am sure. How I wish we could return to visit those days. Fred's family should be very proud of him.
- Bob Buchanan

Posted by Bob Buchanan - Weston, MA - High School Classmate   October 24, 2012

I will always remember Fred as he was growing up. I remember him on those camping trips to Hermit Island and the little league games that he loved to play. He was a person that always excelled at whatever he did and was humble about it.
My heart goes out to his parents, brother john.as well as Jen. and his children that I didn't get to know. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you
Bob Downs

Posted by Robert Downs    October 24, 2012

I remember so much about you. So many experiences. So many lessons. You helped me become the man I am today and I miss you. There was so much left undone, so much left unsaid. I hope that you, wherever you are, know just how much we all loved you. Rest in Peace Dad, you were the best father a son could ever ask for.

Posted by Jake Jordan - Sherborn, MA - Son.    October 24, 2012

Fred and I were team mates on the high school baseball team.

Plain and simple, Fred was just a great all around guy.

We will all miss him.

Averill Bromfield, Weston High Class of 1978

Posted by Averill Bromfield    October 24, 2012

Fred,
I fondly remember both you and your Dad in Chemistry class, like it was yesterday. Rest in Eternal Peace.
My best to all, T.J. Costello

Posted by T.J. Costello - Manhasset, NY - Weston HS Classmate   October 24, 2012

Thank you Fred for your Community spirit and the dedication to the youth of your town. I especially thank you for your long tenure as President of Sherborn's Dollars For Scholars---this being just just one example of your contribution. To the entire family know that you are and will continue be in our prayers during this most difficult time..

Posted by Mike Kickham - Sherborn, , MA - Friend   October 24, 2012

I've read all of the memories and comments about Fred that have been posted so far, and they remind me what a special guy Fred was. If you met Fred, even just once, you would always remember him. When I talked about Freddie with my friends who knew him, we all just smiled and realized how much we benefited just by being around him. It didn't matter if I hadn't seen Fred for a couple of years -- whenever we got back in touch, his personality just bounded through the phone or burst through in his emails, which made it seem that we had just been together yesterday. My world was truly a better place when Freddie was part of it, and some of the brightness, happiness and joy that he brought to my life has disappeared. May he rest in peace with the knowledge that he was loved and respected by so many that he left behind.

Posted by Steve Hurley - Westwood, MA - Friend   October 24, 2012

Fred was a spark. He lit up a room the minute he walked in, which is saying something given that I saw him each week at 5:45 AM in a dark spin studio. Everyone smiled when he walked in, and someone would always call out, ‘FRED!’ He had that kind of a following.
During spin class (when he wasn’t kicking our butts with ‘rolling hills’), Fred shared memorable stories about his father, his wife and especially his children. Some were heartfelt and some were downright hysterical. He also demonstrated Devo’s ‘Whip It’ dance more than once, and it is one of my favorite memories.
My point is that during these workouts, he shared a little of himself, and we all called him our friend.

To Jake, Sam and Ali, like you, my father passed away suddenly at age 52, and he, too was named Frederick. And he was a spark. I know the terrible loss you must feel, but know that like his stories, your dad’s spirit will live long in your memories and your hearts. He was a truly authentic person. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom.

Posted by Kari Culhane - Wellesley, MA - friend   October 24, 2012

I too as others remember Fred as an upper classman who had class. He always included everyone around him in his joy for life. From what I have read that did not change. My prayers to those who were blessed to have him in your life more recently than myself. Alison

Posted by Alison (Stiles) Ruble - Sacramento, CA, CA - Friend from High School   October 24, 2012

Fred was one the most exuberant, gregarious and loving people I have known. He shared so much of himself with me and helped me understand the value of friendship and connectedness. He was artistic, musical, athletic, funny and uplifting. He was my brother but he was also my best friend. But most of all, he was a tremendous father. After graduating from Amherst College and Tuck business school and starting a successful career, he decided his best gift and talent was being a father. 13 years ago he became a "full time dad"....and that was his greatest gift and one that will be deeply missed. I love you through eternity my brother.

Posted by John Jordan - Charlotte, VT - Brother   October 24, 2012

Fred and I were friends in Jr. High and High School, sharing many choir concerts and dramatic performances together. Although we hadn't been in touch since graduation, we had just recently corresponded on Facebook. I am so very sorry to hear of his passing. My prayers go out to his loved ones. Fred, you will always be "The Music Man."

Posted by Jessie Grover Robinson - Lexington, MA - old friend   October 24, 2012

We met Fred (Mr J) when he started his new position at Field School. He was so warm, friendly and made my daughter laugh a lot. We still sing "I worked in a button factory"! A song he taught to the kids.

He inspired and encouraged my daughter, Holly to write and she now wants to be an author.

He was known as the only teacher who would join in at recess and even if the kids didn't have him in class, he was very popular at 'Four Square' in the play-ground.

He talked fondly of his time as a 'stay at home' Dad when his own children were young and from this he had wonderful intuition with the children in his classroom always there to listen and help them with their problems.

He put such a lot of effort into his work that Holly even has a letter listing all of her best talents and how much he had valued her as a pupil.

Our thoughts are with his family, whose pain we can only imagine. He will be a great loss to them and to our children in this community.

With our love
Lisa and Philip Astley-Sparke

Posted by Lisa Astley-Sparke - Weston, MA - Room Parent 4th Grade 2010/2011   October 24, 2012

My heartfelt sympathies go to Jen and their children. I am so sad.

I first met Fred at Outward Bound in Maine prior to us starting together at Dartmouth back in 1986. We were required to run to the other side of the island and we raced each other, with others dropping farther behind, neither wanting to yield to the other. I don't remember who won, but I do remember how his warm embrace just made us realize the pleasure of the competition, where it was the fact that we raced and not who won that mattered.

When you met Fred he had the biggest most sincere smile, all focused on you. He was really the only (non family) person I knew who when he looked at you never seemed to judge and only saw the best in you.

He was just the most enthusiastic and positive person, which is what all of his friends thought. I never heard him ever say anything bad about anyone, or anyone ever say anything, and I mean anything, negative about Fred.

I couldn't imagine a better rounded human. Tall and handsome, great athlete, accomplished scholar, wonderful musician, and the nicest person... it would have made me feel insecure if he wasn't so genuinely positive.

The last time we met he was so happy about his teaching, it made me seriously consider doing that.

My heart goes out for his children, but I know he loved them so much.

If there is ever anything I can do, please let me know.

Posted by Richard Emerson - friend   October 24, 2012

Fred's love for family and friends was his life purpose. Jen my heart goes out to you. Jake, Sam and Ali there are three things that last forever: faith, hope and love; and the greatest is love. Never forget how much your Dad loved you.

Posted by Mika Brewer - Friend   October 24, 2012

I knew Fred in High School. He was the upperclassman who actually spoke and laughed with younger high school students. He was the dashingly handsome, athletically and musically gifted person who transcended cliques. He avoided the many pitfalls and pettinesses of most adolescents; he teased only those he knew could take it and give it back. He used the confidence his gifts gave him not for his own gain, but to help others.

My memories are from 35 years ago, but they reflect a character in Fred that I am sure never changed and only got better.

To his wife and children and his larger family - of whom Joe was my teacher and John was a friend - I send my deepest condolences.

Posted by Rob Coburn - New York, NY - Friend   October 24, 2012

Ali,

We are so sorry to hear about your Dad. May all your wonderful memories keep you warm and comforted during this most difficult time. Please know your friends from the Mass Mavs Silver team are keeping you and your family in their thoughts and prayers.

Nancy, John & Kaleigh

Posted by The Wright Family - Westborough, MA   October 24, 2012

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Posted by Debbie DeMauro - MA - friend   October 24, 2012